To recap: Things were looking up for about a week... end of June, I think June 30th was the day, she was crying at the thought of my daughter leaving home.
I have an adult daughter (the one who was sleeping on the couch while my wife was getting her sex on with that guy). She's 19, graduated high school but still fairly immature, just working jobs in retail. Daughter tells us that end of July she's moving out of state to live with her friend's married sister.
We're not moving yet, and the reason is that I would have to really put in a ton of effort to make it happen before she leaves for her orientation. To make this happen I would have to take initiative and lead some of the efforts. I was honest and told her that I could not do that.
One of the problems in our marriage is that Wife wanted to move somewhere different, and I didn't care to. I was somewhat against it I guess but not so much dig my heels in and fight it, more like drag my feet and avoid the subject. This really hurt Wife, she had other issues going on and I wasn't there for her.
In a surprising twist, Wife seemed to have lost her patience with me and this morning told me "maybe we should D." Now, I probably put the idea in her mind because yesterday I told her that if she's not committed then I want honest answers, rip the band-aid off, I'll be OK.
Follow up to a previous post, you can read it: Will I Be Rejected?
The answer is no I wasn't, although I think she skimmed the article at best. On Sunday 5/16/2021 after a late lunch, she initiated a discussion about it. I didn't really know what to expect, and while I didn't get a gushing revelation where she was in tears and a sudden change of heart, a few things were very encouraging: